Emotion Control

#afterschoolscenario the moment she enter the car this afternoon, #chioma told me some ladies request nak snaps picture together since they attracted to her hair but she refused.

I asked why, she said "karang diorang viral mummy", 🤔🤔 make sense jugak lah..

Sometimes, I wish she (and her twins) know how impress my people would be towards their uniqueness and adore them so much due to their looks.

Unfortunately, too much attention make them uncomfortable. What they wanted all this while from people around them is just to treat them normal rather than obviously take them as 'different' or unique.

It's ok girls..
Your command is my wish 😜😜

Then, I remind her (as I always did) the rejection must come with manners, politely thank them eventhough we might not happy with it. It's emotion controls my dear 😊

#illneverstopguidingthem
#lifelesson

Kisah suami aku N****, kau peduli apa?

Jangan menangis wahai ibunda.
Lapkan air matamu.
Let's get together with 'em in this battle and they'll be okay insyallah.

Kita ni kuat, sebab tu tuhan uji kita dengan cara ini (jodoh dengan lelaki kulit hitam).

Twins pun pernah berada dlm situasi ni. At government school, diorang always balik demotivated, unhappy dan tak bersemangat dengan persekitaran sekolah, twins ni type yang sangat suka ke sekolah, sangat aktif dengan aktiviti sekolah, pernah wakili zon dalam sukan bola jaring, wakil sekolah acara tarian, masuk macam² kelab dan aktiviti kokurikulum but diorang still tak happy dengan persekitaran (atas semua faktor) almost the same situation dengan 'anak yang menangis' dalam post ni sampaikan akedemik diorang effect teruk.

I decide to 'search' for the environment they need since and change following "what they need" rather than "what they have to".

I nekad, diorang dipindah sekolah yang pelajar disitu semua bukan warganegara Malaysia (dan ramai juga pelajar Afrika even tak sekelas dengan diorang - untuk buat diorang rasa belonging) dan hire seorang personal tutor untuk diorang. This is hard, demi Allah, berat hati nak decide at first. Tapi, I knew that I perlu nekad.

Once and for all ~~~

Syukur, ank² yang almost depression ni (sebab dah berada dalam keadaan anxiety sejak sekian lama bersekolah dan menahan emosi, lagi² dah menginjak usia remaja) lebih positif dan happy now. If dulu malu nak cakap, nak share apa² tentang daddy or family Nigeria diorang, banyak diam in public. Now, lots of changing. Bangga bercerita tentang their mixed family even sampai nak bawa bekal suji and egusi soup pegi sekolah. No more malu or demotivated macam dulu, even gambar nenek Nigeria pun bawak bg cikgu² tgk, klu dulu selagi blh sorok, diorang sorok. Takut family kena hina/ketawa.

Untuk bantu mereka, persekitaran is the main factor - no doubt.

Sorry to say kalau ank² bangsa kita yg dominasi, itulah ceritanya. Tak tau la apa yang silap. Ibu bapa ke atau anak itu sendiri yg memang nakal. Tak pasti juga sampai bila.

Whatsoever, mental health anak² kita tak mampu tunggu. Kita yang kena 'cari dan cipta' persekitaran yang baik untuk mereka. I took all the possibilities, risks and chances -  lepaskan hak keistimewaan (pendidikan under KPM) dan memilih utk isolate diri kitorang dari hak tersebut demi persekitaran yang membahagiakan buat diorang.

I never regret & will never be.
I wish to end this masterpiece with "..and we all live happily ever after" 😊😊😊

Suara Hati Perempuan

Antara aspek yang orang kita tak nampak yang mmbuatkan ramai wanita tempatan (obviously wanita melayu) lebih rela mengahwini lelaki asing.

Ternyata rata² wanita kita bukan dambakan harta dan wang berkoyan sebenarnya, jika ada yg mementingkan aspek material utk mereka kahwini itu adalah berbalik kpd point didlm post dibawah ini.

Kita cuma mahu lelaki yang ada simpati dan empati, terutamanya terhadap keperluan anak², kami jatuh no. 2 pun tak ape.

Tapi tidak.

Lelaki tempatan nowadays (namun pun begitu TIDAKLAH SEMUA) lebih memilih utk mmperisterikan wanita yang mampu memberi hasil.

Inilah delima wanita kita hari ini, antara untuk menggembirakan hati suami sebagai "pembantu ekonomi keluarga dambaan" dan "memenuhi keperluan anak² pada tahap terbaik".

Kasihannnn....

Rata² yg terlihat (pengalaman diri sendiri juga) majority lelaki asing sangat rajin bekerja serta tidak memilih kerja. Rasa tanggungjawab mereka tinggi. Even majority rakan² yg berkahwin dgn lelaki asing diusulkan oleh suami masing² untuk tak bekerja dan menjaga dan mmbesarkan ank sendiri, walau kehidupan ditahap biasa² namun keperluan dalam asas kekeluargaan itu terjaga.

That does matter.

Ni tidak, bila tahu mana² wanita tempatan kahwin warga asing, macam² label menghina netizen bagi. Kadang² berdarah mata, hati dan telinga lihat dan mendengar.

Mentality orang kita, bilalah nak berubah?

I Like to write..

I like to write when am sad,
I like to write when am happy,
I like to write when am angry,
I like to write when am excited,
I like to write when am confuse,
I like to write...

To speak out my emotions...

SALAM MALAYSIA BARU

PERNAH satu masa lepas Tun bersara, hati kecik #kaknewrules berkata betapa hati ini sangat merindui suasana di zaman Tun memerintah.

Paling kakak rindu ialah dari masa kakak tadika, sekolah rendah sampailah sekolah menengah. Bagaimana masyarakat Malaysia pelbagai kaum sangat² rapat tanpa ada prejudis dan bias antara satu sama lain (betul² rapat) boleh mengeteh satu meja, lawak satu bahasa, gelak sama², sambutan perayaan disambut sama adil di mana², sama².

Rindu gila.

Then, 1998-1999 (tak silap), kakak masuk kolej. Masa tu zaman ekonomi Malaysia merudum teruk akibat onar GEORGE SOROS BAJINGAN. Ramai rakyat Malaysia hilang kerja, business gulung tikar, nilai matawang drop gila².

Ini moment paling legend, bilamana Tun berjaya pulihkan ekonomi Malaysia dengan gagah. Gagah yang bukan pada tenaga, tapi pada stratergi mindanya.

Bijaknya Tun, dia ajar rakyat untuk pulihkan keadaan, diwar²kan pada rakyat untuk utamakan Malaysian made products, juga ada buat kutipan derma jika kakak tak silap fakta.

Ternyata percaturan Tun mengena. Malaysia stabil semula, GAH dimata dunia.

Sumpah kakak rindu dan selalu berkata dalam hati, "kalaulah Tun masih Perdana Menteri"

Harini, suara hati kakak terjawab dan menjadi kenyataan. Rasanya macam pokok layu mula segar - dapat air, walaupun sesekali tengok Tun hati jadi seriau sangat dek kerana meningkatnya umur Tun, yang mana perasaan risau tu, sama macam risau bila tengok uzurnya mak abah sendiri masa dioramg tak sihat, sungguh² seriau.

Kakak percaya, kita semua perlu percaya, percaturan Tun pasti berhasil lagi kali ini. Bukan sikit² punya pemulihan negara yang Tun pernah buat. Masa Tun serahkan pentadbiran pada Tun Abdullah dulu pun negara tak berhutang.
Begitulah semangat Tun.

Maka, sama² kita bantu sorang sikit. Even, sorang RM1 hatta, sangat bermakna untuk negara ketika ini.

Kita bantu Tun buktikan dia mampu kotakan apa yang dikata.

Bantu Tun untuk bantu kita.

Kakak bukan siapa², kakak tidak dapat bonus tahunan mahupun perayaan, kakak bukan pegawai kerajaan bergred², kakak tak lagi dapat bantuan kewangan kerajaan (previously br1m) yang cuma kakak dapat cuma hak² basic warganegara yang semua orang pun dapat dan kakak hanyalah seorang 'domestic engineer' untuk kerajaan kecik kakak ni. Sesungguhnya tak banyak yang kakak dapat bantu tapi kakak tetap sayang Malaysia...

#demimuMALAYSIA
#mysmallcontribution
#Ihavedonemypart
#letssavethecountry
#valueinthespiritbeyondcurrencies
#letsmakeMALAYSIAgreatagain

Mereka Memanfaatkan Peluang

In this issue, I don't blame them. They just grab the opportunity. No one stopping us from doing, but what we did? Ada tapak, kita Alibaba kan pastu rasa diri cerdik sebab tak yah susah pun boleh dapat duit atas angin.

Having some friends yang bersuamikan warga Bangladesh, most of them sangat utamakan keluarga dan anak². Paling impressive, semangat persaudaraan sesama diorang sangat erat, yang tumpang berniaga disini. I have seen, diorang bukan berniaga bodoh², how their passion dalam menghargai peluang yang mereka dapat. Diorang bayar segala licences fee, caj, bond etc etc. Nak cakap ttg their dark side of life, sapa² pun ada.

That doesn't make me legalize their wrong doing, but when it comes about their passion in mencari rezeki, I personally salute them.

Baca komen netizen boleh bikin muntah. Sibuk sangat nak halau bangla, sendiri pun belum tentu boleh buat apa yg bangla tu buat utk bantu ekonomi negara ni.

Learn from them...

💖 Prayer To My Dear Husband 💖

ﺑﺴﻢ ﺍﻟﻠﻪ ﺍﻟﺮﺣﻤﻦ ﺍﻟﺮﺣﻴﻢ

"In the name of God,
the Most Gracious, the
Most Merciful"

O' God,

I call this prayer for the sake of my husband's safety and well being,

O' God,

I pray that YOU would
protect him from any
accidents, diseases,
dangers or evil
influences.

Keep him safe,
especially in cars and
planes.

Hide him from violence
and the plans of evil
people.

Wherever he walks,
secure his steps.
Keep him on 'YOUR
path so that his feet
don’t slip.

If his foot does slip,
hold him up by 'YOUR
mercy.

Give him the wisdom
and discretion that will
help him walk safely
and not fall into danger.


Be his fortress,
strength, shield, and
stronghold.

Make him to dwell in
the shadow of 'YOUR
wings.

Be his rock, salvation,
and defense, so that he
will not be moved or
shaken.

I pray that even though
bad things may be
happening all around
him, they will not come
near him.

Save him from any
plans of the enemy that
seek to destroy his life.

Preserve his going out
and coming in from this
time forth and even
forevermore.

O' God,

'YOU alone know the
depth of the burden my
husband carries.

I may understand the
specifics, but 'YOU
have measured the
weight of it on his
shoulders.

I’ve not come to
minimize what 'YOU are
doing in his life, for I
know 'YOU work great
things in the midst of
trials.

Nor am I trying to
protect him from what
he must face.

I only want to support
him so that he will get
through every battle as
a winner.

O' God,

'YOU are our refuge and
strength, a very present
help in trouble.

Strengthen his heart for
every battle and give
him patience to wait on
'YOU.

Build him up so that no
matter what happen he
will be able to stand
strong through it.

Give him endurance to
run the race and not
give up,

Though he fall, he shall
not be utterly cast
down; for the God
upholds him with His
hand”.

I pray that he will look
to YOU to be his “refuge
until these calamities
have passed by”.

May he learn to wait on
YOU because “those
who wait on God shall
renew their strength;
they shall mount up
with wings like eagles,
they shall run and not
be weary, they shall
walk and not faint”.

I pray that he will find
his strength in YOU and
as he cries out to YOU,
YOU will hear him and
save him out of all his
troubles

Amin ya rabbal'alamin..
Amin ya rabbal'alamin..
Amin ya rabbal'alamin..

p.s: Do we pray for our
husband every day?
Why not begin today?

Rasa Seorang Manusia

Dalam dunia yang maya,
Prejudis dan bias,
Kita tak terlepas dari terkena tempias,
Rimas,

Ditindas, 

Sembunyi dalam puisi dan kias,
Tidak kau bidas, 

Tak berpaling walau sekilas,
Hanya kau yang tahu kodeksku yang kompleks,
Dalam disleksia cuba kekal dalam konteks,
Bila dunia seolah tak memahami,
Kau sudi selami, 

Dalami dan mengalami,
Setia mendengar, 

Sentiasa hadir...

-Malique

You're Beautiful

They used to tell me,
The only thing they want society to do is just "don't look at them",
Its suffocate them when they being an attention.

They hate it....

Seems their life is normal,

Just like everyone.
Every day is so wonderful,
Till suddenly its becoming hard to breathe,
Now and then they get insecure from all the pain,
Feel so ashamed.

To all their friends and maybe mine,

They're delirious.
So consumed in all their doom.
Trying hard to fill emptiness,
The pieces gone,
Left the puzzle undone..

Is that the way it is? 

No one can describe.
Out of all,
I just want them to remember --

Dear children,
You are so beautiful no matter what they say,

You are so beautiful in every single way,

Just a word can never bring you down..
No one can bring you down,
Not today,
Not forever...

 

 

Dear Mixed Black Children...

Dear my lovely mixed black children,
I can’t assure that life will be always beautiful. But one thing I can promise you - when you realise how beautiful, strong, and special you are, you’ll definitely agree with me.

Dear children,
Learn this,
Learn that “words can’t ever bring you down",
Lets words remain words,
Lets the fire inside you burning,

Remember my dear children,
We absolutely can't change people but we can change our mindset.

Regarding this “NEGRO” issue.

"If the word Negro is offensive towards black people all over the world, why can’t we change it when it comes to us?

First, being optimistic that you (all beautiful mixed children) are not Negro as it offensive meaning,

And;

Second, take the good side of Negro word itself".

Personally, I’m proud with the real Negro origin.
For me, they're strong, energetic, full of determination and spirit, hard working and most importantly is they're sexy ✌😝

The only thing is they have just been stranded and hooked by the system  that created by human just like them but they might be super in power and rich.

So at this point,

I prefer to put aside those 'slavery' thing (I'm sorry dear African brothers and sisters cuz our children really need this spirit to fight what they need to face everyday)

I wish if they naturalize the negro word, they'll not being demotivate.
The ultimate strength is all they need. I know it is not easy, but we need to be strong to fight. Those people (local) won't listen and wouldn't even care, the more we explain, the more they will irritate us because it's just their intention (to offend us) the black and mixed black community.

So, this is the only way for our children to protect their emotion.

Dear mixed black children,
Built up kinda shield.
Be immune to it.
You and me,
We do this together.

Standstill my dear mixed black children.

From the heart of mixed black children's Asian mama 💪💪💪

#NEGROsowhat
#BLACKORIGINisfinestrongenergeticdeterminehardwork
#proudlyBLACKrelated

A Dream of A Dreamer

I want to write,
I'm going to write,
I'll write...

Sincerely,
Me...